I'll be honest...I wanted to do a deep, meaningful post about our year. But--time, like always, slipped away. I'm not sure how long I'll leave this post up---I still feel weird about having his picture "out there". But...until then.. enjoy :-)
As the year winds down, I thought share with you my Top 10 things I've learned about being a mom this year.
10. Now that LM moves, I take back everything I said about the video monitor. I want one :-)
9. They really mean it when they say that all your careful research/preparation on how you'll raise your baby will disappear like a pair of new Jordan's at a mall before Christmas. Once you meet him, you learn to survive in a way that works.
8. I had the urge to stay at home with LM instead of returning to work much stronger than I ever expected. That said, I'm happy with the choice I made of going back to work.
7. People judge--they judge whether you breastfeed or don't breastfeed or where/when/how you stop---they don't stop just because they realize it hurts your feelings. Everyone is an expert in raising your baby---just remember that you (and perhaps your partner) are really the only experts.
6. Seek out moms. I'm not the the personality that fits in with most of my SIL's mom's groups. I should do a better job at seeking out groups that match my personality/priorities etc better. But--heck who has time. What I have found though--is that my due date group is the best group of moms I know. They give me advice, calm me down, listen to me vent and coo over the latest picture of LM. They also give me a chance to help them--with my opinions, my experiences and sometimes, even some teacher advice. They rock my world and I LOVED getting Christmas cards from them.
5. TH is better at matching baby outfits than I am. All of the compliments we get on his stylish outfits are either "put together" or bought by The Hubs. Is it any wonder I let him buy me clothes? :-)
4. Balancing motherhood/work/wifedom is SO much harder than I thought. I feel like I'm being a great mom, a good teacher (sometimes just ok) and an average wife. In the new year, I will be a better one!
3. Time flies. Thank god we took so many pictures and have been vigilant about keeping a camera nearby.
2. Sleep. Holy crap. It's amazing how one can obsess over one thing so much. One day I hope to not worry so much about his sleep, sleep habits, positions, things affecting his sleep etc etc.
1. I love being a mom. I knew I wanted to be one. I knew I would be a good one (over-achiever much?). BUT--I didn't realize how much I would love being one. You cannot prepare yourself adequately for creating something so special and then being expected for the journey of keeping it healthy, thriving and off the news :-) LM rocks my world.
I live my life by routines--I like them, my kindergarteners need them and heck, even my dog likes being able to predict what will happen next (he's quite apt at "making predictions"). However, with 3/4 of year of being a mother under my belt---I wish I had realized the point of this article earlier. We do/did/plan to do a lot based off LM setting his own schedule---but the guilt/panic of realizing in the long run that we let him take the hard route is rough. Having to answer the question "Is he sleeping through the night yet?" with "No" and then watching the disapproving/confused/pitying looks....it makes you question whether you're doing the "right" thing. I need to realize there is no "right" thing and just roll with it better. There aren't a bunch of insomniac, pacifier addicted, rolling adults running around.
Check out this great article! Where was this 9 months ago?
I've been woefully absent this last month---we can blame lots of
things but I'll choose crazy work life (end of the semester
assessments--who thought 1:1 assessments while simultaneously
teaching/entertaining 23 other five year olds was a good idea?) and
trying to get ready for Christmas (note: I am not yet ready).
I've got a whole host of half-finished drafts that I've been working on
this month when ideas strike me but just haven't had a chance to
finish. So--look for them soon! Plus--I'm sure LM's first Christmas will
be inspiration enough to churn out a few more!
finally got me jumpstarted (besides winter break) was this lovely award
If you haven't seen the Liebster Blog Award yet--here's a bit of info!
The Liebster Blog Award is meant to spotlight blogs with fewer than 200 followers and provide them with a few more avid readers.
Here are the rules:
1. Copy and paste the award on your blog.
2. Thank the giver and link back to the blogger who gave it to you.
3. Reveal your top 5 picks and let them know by leaving a comment on their blog.
4. Hope that your followers will spread the love to other bloggers!
It was SO hard to choose my top five--decisiveness has never been my
strong suit and with so many wonderful blogs on my reader...well...it
1. Alex's Adventures--she started her IVF journey very early in my pregnancy and I really enjoy watching her little one growing!
2. Infertile Myrtle--a mom who no matter what she has going on, is always an avid commenter and lifts my spirits more than she knows!
3. Musings of Hormonal Egg Basket--Amy has a little on only a few weeks older than LM and her honest posts often speak right to my first time mom heart.
4. Jet's Journey--another
first time mom blog where the little man is nearly LM's age. Add to it
that she's in education and it's one of my favorite reads.
Well....a week ago. (Ok...several weeks ago...that's how long ago I started this post).
So much has happened in the last month. But first we'll hit the nuts and bolts.
still eating about 30-35oz of formula a day. With his recent
growth/developmental spurt, he eats 1-2 jars of baby food a day. He
usually eats 2x at daycare and then a little bit at "dinner" time with
us. He eats puffs and Cheerios now and ADORES them. His pincher grasp
has dramatically improved in the last week--even mushy banana pieces
make it into his mouth now! Our pedi said we're good to go to
transitioning to more food and lessening the bottles. For now, we'll
drop the "dinnertime" bottle and feed a bigger meal (it was usually more
of a snack). I'll also stop worrying so much when he leaves ounces
behind or if a schedule/routine change has us drop a bottle.
he worked out the whole sleep/rolling thing and discovered he's a combo
side/belly sleeper, we've been *gasp* basically sleeping through the
night. I will pause as you all sob from relief that I will hopefully
stop bothering you all with my rants about his lack of sleeping well.
He'll still wake up in the middle of the night crying sometimes--he
never totally wakes up and after popping a paci in, he's good. We've
been struggling with naps since we've been on winter break and so going
to bed has been a struggle but we've been trying to roll with it and let
him stay up a little later since he's sleeping in later (yay no 615am
baby wake-up!!). It feels like such a victory as I've basically had
crappy sleep since last January when I started getting up to pee every 3
hours. Hopefully this will help with the total lack of brain function
I've been experiencing and some of the nerve pain in my back (another
Body/Brain--When we last left LM, he was rolling rolling rolling.
He's been enjoying whipping himself around rooms by rolling. He's
learned how to lift/lean his head to steer himself. He adores rolling at
the Christmas tree but has been since thwarted by the ottoman blocking
it. Just the other day he suddenly just sat up on his own. He's been
sitting for while but BAM up he went. Within 48 hours, it was a highly
polished skill. He loves sitting up in his crib and looking around. He's
not crawling yet--but he is doing push-ups that resemble the awkward
things I used to do in middle school gym (envision shaky arms and butt
high in the air). He wants to pull up and tries...but doesn't quite get
how to do it. I think that by the time I'm back at work (boo!!!) at the
start of January, he'll be either crawling or scooting. The one year
olds at his daycare are both recently walking so I think once he's back
around them he'll be pushing himself. We have two new teeth (like within
the last week new). My baby is officially a vampire with his cute
little fangs. I guess I must shift my allegiance from Team Edward to
Team LM. He's been working on his top four teeth since August so it's
such a relief that some have popped through. Now, all he wants for
Christmas is his two front teeth :-)
He's babbling up a storm--mama, dada, ca, ga, bah. Nothing with a
lot of intention but I think the dog's name will be first as it has
both b's and c's. He reaches for what and who he wants now. His opinions
are shared--he'll shriek with pleasure or anger if his needs are meant.
I'm not sure who he got this temper from (*glances guiltily
around*)...we'll blame TH. He loves music and claps when he hears
it....as well as claps when he is happy or proud of himself. Books are
still his thing---he adores them and I adore that he does.
He changes so much day to day---I'm so glad that winter break
fell when it did. I'm having major mommy guilt about going back to work
already...sigh. Maybe a mystery rich relative will die and as they
secretly always found me to be the daughter they never had...leave me
their millions. But--I should probably work on report cards and
curriculum maps just in case.